When we have a strong desire to release the past, heal and increase our wellbeing it is important to know who you are. This includes your beliefs, the way you think, your limitations, controlling influences on your life etc. It is important to question these things as they create a box that controls what is possible for you. In some cases, the boxes may even keep you feeling unfulfilled, low in vitality, trapped and controlled by others. What box are you in?
If you want freedom and authentic well-being then you must step out of your box.
A box means how you, society and the systems in place define and shape who you are. The systems are any institution or controlling function in your life such as the government, the financial systems, the education system, religion, groups, associations etc.
As an exercise to understand what box you are in, spend some time thinking about your early childhood. Think about how you were taught and what you were taught. This would probably be things like what manners are, how to eat properly, how to interact and play with others etc. Look at anything that you were taught with a social or religious slant on it. This could be what the expectations are for a girl or boy as they grow up, what roles they must play when older (mother, father, wife, husband) etc. Were any other options given other than these? What would happen if you did not follow what you were told is appropriate?
Now fast forward to your school years. Think about the expectations that were placed on you. What were they and where did they come from? Do you remember the discipline, school uniforms, assemblies, group activities? What happened to your individuality and what would happen to you if you expressed this? Was it encouraged or were you taught to act, behave and look like everyone else? If so why was this? Do you think this could be because your box was already created for you? If so, what did the rest of your adult life look like?
When questioning aspects of your life, don’t take at face value what you think. Always question it to ensure your views and beliefs are not merely conditioning. I like to do this type of questioning when I find myself either repeating a view, thought or belief. The more you question, the more you start to align yourself back to who you are, and not the box you are in. It is in this place of freedom that true healing, well-being, and growth can take place.
One word of caution. It is important not to take yourself out of a box and then to place yourself into another. Remember you are a divine, infinite, expansive energy being. There are no limits to what is possible. Sometimes we must use labels to identify ourselves, just don’t define your existence by them. When using a label try and use them as a mask. Use the label when necessary and then remove it when it is not. This way you don’t believe and define yourself as the label – thereby creating another box.