To answer the question are twin flames always romantic, we need to know what a twin flame is. You will find many variations of the definition of a twin flame depending on who you ask. I think a twin flame is a spiritual partner that you have agreed to meet in this lifetime to achieve something together on a spiritual level. In many ways, the term twin flame is very misleading.
With this in mind, it doesn’t necessarily mean that a twin flame relationship has ever to be a romantic relationship. In fact, in most cases, it is not a romantic relationship. Partnerships can mean anything from romantic, friendship, acquaintance, stranger or even an enemy. They are not always going to be the opposite sex either. The emphasis is on spiritual, so any partnership is valid and does not mean it must be romantic or the ‘the one’ as Hollywood likes to keep telling us.
More often than not a twin flame is a spiritual partnership that takes the form of friendship, connection or experience with someone that brings about profound internal discoveries and change. Connections where you learn valuable life lessons that change your life. After all, this is why you agreed to meet in this lifetime, to help each other learn and grow.
So where does the idea come from that twin flames must be ‘the one’ in a romantic sense? In short, it comes from social programming. Look at the TV you view, the books and magazines you read, the commercials you consume and the movies you watch. You are continually being bombarded with images and stories of what to expect and how to act. Girls are taught that they should get married to their one and only. There is a strong emphasis on fairy stories where they are saved by someone (knight in shining armour) who is stronger than them who will protect and keep them safe. Boys are told to be strong and to provide for their partners with no emphasis on taking care of their own emotional and mental well-being.
This all contributes to being conditioned to think we are not whole unless we have our twin flame to love and take care of us. Of course, these examples are very narrow and will not cover everyone's experiences, but I think it is an excellent place to start and question things.
I am surprised at how often the concept of a twin flame comes up in conversation. I am frequently asked: ‘Where is my twin flame? Is this person my twin flame? When will I meet my twin flame?
When you look at the energies around these questions, it reveals a need to feel complete within yourself. That you can only be complete when you find something outside of yourself. If you scratch a little deeper, it often reveals a deeper need to relinquish control of your life or not take responsibility for your actions and path. Put more directly; you can’t achieve your fulfilment unless you find someone who is ‘perfect’ to make you complete.
Whether or not you agree with this, the most important thing to do is to question. Question your thoughts, views, and actions. Don’t accept what you have been programmed to think or told how to act. Question where your beliefs and thoughts. Are you happy with the box you are in? Are you happy to be told what is possible for you? Accept nothing unless you have relentlessly questioned what is right for you.
Often working to clear the subconscious of any non-serving thought patterns concerned with twin flames or feeling in complete, is a good starting point. Then you may be interested in attunements that focus on relationships and personal. The Twin Flame Reiki attunement aims to specifically focus on twin flame/soul mate connections (non-romantic).